Yes, every girl/woman is different, but I think the video, ‘how to keep the girl you see a future with’ will help you a lot!
Girls really need you to focus on 2 key areas and be very intentional and very consistent. Men think women are complicated and yes, we are more complicated that you are, but if you know what to focus on you may be pleasantly surprised!
I’d love your comments whether you’re a guy or a girl 🙂
So I don’t confuse you as I explain, I will use a guy/girl relationship. It applies to any type of potentially intimate relationship.
If he really does like you he is not hanging out with other girls. He is not texting, calling, or messaging them. He is not flirting with them. He is not ignoring you around other girls. He is proud to be seen with you in public.
If he really does like you he calls when he says he will. He is there when he says he will be. He is extremely respectful. You are a very major priority in his life.
I once dated a guy who had time for anything BUT me. I was always the one asking him to spend time with me. He always had and special excuse. Well, there’s this game I want to watch…I want to hang out with my buddies (I was uninvited)….I need to get this thing done. Always something and that something was never ME! Oh, my young inexperience self! I should’ve cut that one off real quick! 🙂 This is the type of guy that you need to remove yourself from his list of options. Just cut him off and don’t look back!
He pays attention to you and what is important to you. He is curious, but not jealous. He wants to talk with you. He wants to work things out with you when there is confusion. He is there for you when things are hard for you and talks to you when things are hard for him.
He does not talk about you to his friends and what I mean by this is that what is private between you remains private. Even as an adult I hear guys say things about their wives that would get them in huge trouble because it feels like betrayal…and it is! Don’t be with that kind of guy! He’s the type that is just using you. If he deeply respects you he would never do that.
It’s very interesting to me what people generally look for in a significant other. When I look back at my young self I am amazed at how little I expected. I thought some of my expectations would just be there because that’s how good people are.
Let me explain. I am blessed to have an awesome dad. Not perfect, of course, but because he was so consistently awesome I assumed all men were like that. Oh boy did I get burned with that assumption. You know what they say about assuming! It turned out to be true! LOL
As I get older, as I have been through more hard things in life, as I listen to the hard things my clients and friends go through my list of expectations changes and grows pretty long.
Some may say that if you have too high of expectations you will never find someone. I’ve lived long enough to know it is FAR better to be alone and happy and healthy than to be with someone who makes your life miserable. And alone is very relative. Some really great friends have helped me know we are never alone.
I have lived in misery in the spirit of staying together, in the spirit of keeping my expectations ‘reasonable’ by our cultures’ standards and all it’s done is cause me a whole lot of heartache.
I am a naturally joyful, energetic, positive person. I love feeling that way, so if you consistently mess with that then I have some decisions to make. Those decisions have a massive ripple effect that spans from my kids to my ability to reach you guys.
I take that seriously and I hope you do too. Your life is your own. You can’t get the time back you spend with someone who hampers your ability to really be powerful and influential.
When I encourage you to have high expectations what I mean is to focus on really solid, consistent character. Sure, you need to be attracted to this person, but if that’s all you got then you are in for a world of hurt. That person you thought was so cute is going to get ugly real quick! LOL
In addition to this video I have a long list you can read and ponder. Be strong and brave enough to say no to the good so you can say yes to the best!
Have you ever hung out with a person that just makes you feel like yuck? That’s the best way I can describe interactions with narcissists.
In this video I give you some everyday life examples of what a narcissist acts like so you can see it before you get into a relationship with them in the first place. I even tell a few jokes! LOL
The important part is to spot them coming so you can avoid a relationship with a narcissist in the first place! If you look on Pinterest you will see SO many quotes on narcissism. I didn’t even know what that was 5 years ago! LOL
Narcissists can come off pretty charming at first making it easy to fool you, but once you get sucked in you will most likely be wondering what the heck just happened. Often time we feel like if we had just done something better then he or she wouldn’t have acted that way.
Narcissists have an uncanny ability to make you feel like you’re nothing! There isn’t room in their world for anyone but themselves, so watch out.
Here are a couple of articles you can check out real quick so you can compare good people against abusive people..which is what a narcissist is. They may make it easier for you to spot!
I realized on my Pinterest board that posts about narcissism were pinned more than anything else. Hmmm….maybe the world is getting wise to their garbage. I really try to find the humor in everything if I can, so I just couldn’t resist! Forgive me, but these are just too funny not to post! 🙂
Sometimes it seems that the louder someone claims Sainthood, the bigger the horns they are hiding.
Trying to reason with a narcissist is like trying to nail jello to a tree.
Why did the narcissist cross the road? They thought it was a boundary.
How many narcissists does it take to change a light bulb? One. He holds the bulb while the world revolves around him (or her.)
I told these in my video about narcissism so feel free to skip if you’ve already heard them 🙂
A priest, a teacher, a millionaire, and a narcissist were golfing together. As they walked the course, they came up behind a foursome that was moving very slowly, and that didn’t offer to let them play through. Calling over the club pro, the foursome inquired about the poor sportsmanship of the slow group. The pro explained that the slow golfers were blind. The priest said, Oh, bless them, I will keep them in my prayers. The teacher said I will tell my students how inspiring they are. The millionaire said I will offer to pay their greens fees for the year. The narcissist said, Why can’t they play at night?
A Narcissist’s wife goes to the Wizard to ask him if he can remove a curse she has been living with for the last 10 years. The Wizard says, “Maybe, but you will have to tell me the exact words that were used to put the curse on you.” The woman says without hesitation, “I now pronounce you man and wife.”
My husband and I divorced for religious reasons. He thought he was God and I didn’t.
In all seriousness, the opposite of a narcissist I believe is Mother Teresa:
Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindnesses; Kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile -Mother Teresa
If you can understand who a wonderful person really is, you won’t be fooled by the narcissist because they’ll stick out like a sore thumb! 🙂