The number 1 thing teenagers don’t like about their parents
Do you think you know what it is? You might. Have you ever heard your child say, “You just don’t get it.” Even when we try really hard to ‘get it’ sometimes we miss the mark. The fact is, we aren’t always going to understand why an issue is so important to our teenager, so then what?
As parents it can be really hard to climb into their world to really get a sense of what is going on. That takes a lot of intentionality, focus, engagement and patience. It takes being willing to really listen, ask questions and think generously about your child when they are explaining something.
Saying things like, “When you’re in the REAL world….” does not help and to be quite honest, it drives a bigger wedge between you. The distance between is looking more the like the Grand Canyon.
If you don’t understand, at least show compassion and empathy. Show your willingness to help in anyway you can and sometimes all they need for us to do is just listen. Just listen.
Ask them what they need. “Do you need me to just listen or would you like my advice?” You’d be shocked at how many times they just need someone to listen and show they care.
You may say the reason you don’t really want to talk with your child about things that bug them is because of the drama that comes with it. In this video I’ll show you something you can do about that.
I’ll give you insight into why the drama may amp up and what you could be doing to contribute to it without even knowing! This is a tried and true method I’ve used on many, many teenagers! 🙂 It works if you do it right!
Keep asking yourself, “Am I showing them that our relationship is the most important thing right now?” If not, make some changes. It matters now and it will always matter.
Remember…it’s never too late to be a better parent. None of us are perfect and that’s okay. Just try to do the next right thing 🙂