When it comes to our kids we as parents can get very focused on surface behavior, but have you ever asked yourself, “What’s underneath all that?” Among other things, you will always hear me say, “Go deeper!”
Whatever is going on with your child you are dead in the water if they don’t know deep in their soul how much you love them. “Of course they know that,” you may say.
I would say to you, “How do you know?” Kids get to a point where they recognize their imperfections and even their ugliness just like we do. So when they get to that point they will push even the most loving parent. Their actions are screaming to you,”How much do you REALLY love me? Huh? And how far are you willing to go?”
Our deepest need as human being is to be fully loved and fully accepted, but guess what has to happen for that to happen? We have to be fully known! So your child is going to act out…so you can fully know the ugliness inside (that we all have, by the way).
What will you do with it? Will you walk away? Will you say, “Nope. This is too much for me. Get out of my house.” This has nothing to do with discipline! This has to everything to do with a deep desire your child has and is screaming at you to understand.