Sometimes there is a parent who is mentally ill or an addict and therefor are destructive to your kids. So what do you do if that is your situation and you see something needs to be done for the kids?
You have a conversation with them being real with them about the reality of the situation. You may be surprised how relieved they are to know you know this is as abnormal as they think it is. When we live with mentally ill people we can often times think we’re going crazy.
When you have a real conversation with them gives you the opportunity to clear up any misconceptions they may have developed in their minds. You can also help them deal with difficult people.
Now when your kids misbehave don’t be afraid to discipline! They will play you like a fiddle if you don’t sit down and explain that you need to help them figure out how to make good decisions by making it very difficult for them to make bad ones! Help them weed through all the mess destructive parents create.
Make sure you plan your exit well if you are in a domestic violence situation. Do some research. Figure out how you’re going to stay safe after you are gone, how you will stay hidden. Do you need to move far away? Do you need to make some financial decisions to make sure you won’t go back because of money? Find another job? Sell cars that can make you easy to spot? The first 3 weeks after leaving a violent person are the most dangerous so make sure you have a safety plan in place for all of you.
You are smart and so are you kids. Be real with them. You aren’t fooling them by pretending what you’re dealing with is not an issue. It is and they will be so happy you had an honest conversation with them about it!
You got this!