It can be so easy to do this, but at what cost? The cost of your future? Only you can do this…
This is easy but doesn’t work
When we are hurting it can be so easy to look around and see how we can blame others in hopes it will make us feel better but in reality that’s not how it works.
What do you do when life is in suckville? What do you do when you can’t get out? What is your go-to method to make the pain go away?
When we make mistakes it can also be easy to come up with laundry list of excuses but does that help us either? Absolutely not.
When people legitimately hurt us through no fault of our own then we harbor unforgiveness because we may be afraid if we forgive them it will excuse what they did. It doesn’t work that way either. Forgiveness is for you.
And then, my all time favorite thing that gets us nowhere: Blaming someone for the mistakes of someone else. Who ever thought of this one was, well, not on the right track.
Guys, listen. Really listen to me here. Your life and how it turns out is up to you and it all starts in your mind. Yes, you hurt. We all do. Will it take some time to deal with that hurt? Yes. But I can tell you with 100% accuracy that using any of the above methods will not get you feeling better long term. You may feel better for a minute when you just dumped all your hurt on someone else, but guess what? It will not make the pain go away. In fact, it will make it worse.
Not only do we destroy relationships we also destroy ourselves. We do not become better people when we do these things. Do you want to be better than you were yesterday? Do you want to have a life that is better than the one you have today?
Let’s say you were hit by a drunk driver. You were the passenger in another car and you were injured so bad you had to learn how to walk again. Was the accident your fault? No. Was it the fault of the one who was driving the car you were in? No. If you are ever going to walk again you are the only one who can do it. Does blaming anyone get you walking again? No. Does making excuses for why you don’t want to put in the work to learn to walk again get you walking? No. Does holding a grudge against anyone going to make you walk again? NO! No one can do it for you!
Do what only you can do
Here is what only you can do…..Take responsibility for your own life. Own your right to make the end of your story amazing. Don’t wait around for someone else to come and do it for you. It won’t happen. Don’t try to numb it with substances, food, shopping, men, women, etc. It will never work.
The pain you don’t deal with goes with you everywhere you go. If you want to learn to walk again by dealing with your pain then it’s something only you can do.