Relationships take effort. They take making the other person a priority and sometimes it means making what matters to them matter to you in a big way.
How are you managing your half of your relationship with that person?
This is another great saying I learned from Danny Silk. There are a lot of things we need to do to manage
So let’s tackle some of those. Any acquaintance I just look at being very respectful and flexible when I can. Everyone gets that from me. So let’s say your contractor who’s doing some work on
What about your boss and coworkers? Again, respectful and flexible when you can be.
Friends? Still respectful and flexible. They need some extra attention. They need your time, your effort, your honesty when things are bothering you and your advice when warranted. They need you to show up when they need you. They need you to make time in your schedule to spend time having some fun too.
Family? Which family are we talking about? Extended? They fall into the friend category for me. As far as inner circle people like spouses and children…and if you are a teenager reading this these people would be your parents and siblings….they get things in addition to what friends get. They get the “No matter what I’m right here. No matter what I love you and we’ll work this out.” (This does not apply to abusive or unfaithful spouses. I don’t want to give the impression that’s it’s necessary to have that mentality with them.)
They get my heart. They get my trust, my patience, my perseverance, my grace, my truth, my pain and I get all of there’s. We have to be people that others can trust with their emotions. We have to be safe, compassionate people who tell the truth about how we are feeling instead of being manipulative and passive aggressive.
I could write a book on this. That is how strongly I feel about the aspects of this.
Let me ask you this. Are you giving your leftovers, your frustrations, your projections to your inner circle people and expecting they give you their best? Do you have the expectation that your relationships will be fantastic when you manage
Begin to think about life this way and see how things change!
Much love! -Teresa