You might be surprised by this video, but I promise it’s on point from my experience. Again, we’re talking about really good parents here….
Disclaimer: this is not relevant for kids who have parents who are abusive, manipulative, neglectful and the like. This is for good parents who are really trying to love their kids well.
Not everything is or should be up to your parents…
I hear a lot of kids complain about their parents. A LOT, but when I probe a little deeper there is something more to it than meets the eye, at least to the kid. It’s painstakingly obvious to the parents so why don’t the kids get it?
Guys…let me be hard on you for a minute all in the spirit of love. I do care so I’m going to be straight with you. If you:
- spoke with respect
- did what they asked
- were grateful humans
- followed through with what you said you would do
- didn’t make ‘baiting’ comments
- were a joy to be around
- there would be no need for your parents to ‘harp’ on you
- there would be no need to ground you
- there would be joy in the house
- you all would like hanging out together
- you wouldn’t feel like you couldn’t do anything right
Listen…we all have our part to play and if you aren’t doing yours then don’t be mad at your parents for pointing it out. Do what you know you should in the way you should and watch how things turn out.
Just watch and see what I’m talking about. Not one kid I’ve ever talked to has argued with me about this when they complained to me about their parents. The ones that changed what they had control over watched a transformation in their family rapidly.
Much love, -Teresa