Loyalty seems to get muddy and it’s worth talking about. I’ve seen people go back to people who are not loyal to them so let’s chit chat about it!
Who is worth your loyalty?
I’ve seen so many people be loyal to people who don’t deserve it. So let’s talk about this…They are:
- kind & loving
- people who sacrifice for you
- refuse gossip
- refuse to allow others to gossip about you and will not gossip about you either (I hear spouses do this all the time! STOP IT!)
Why do we tolerate disloyalty?
This usually comes from a negative belief we have about ourselves. People who have a high and healthy view of ourselves we truly will NOT tolerate disloyalty.
What if you’re the jerk that’s being disloyal?
Guys, we all mess up and when we get all prideful we then refuse to have a healthy measure of self-reflection. If we are the jerk it’s really important to:
- see what you’re doing
- get humble
- admit to yourself you are wrong…it’s okay…you’re in good company
- admit to the person you’ve hurt that you messed up
- listen to what they have to say and keep your mouth shut when they have hard things to say to you. After all…you earned it so put your big girl panties or your big boy shorts on and listen so you get the whole picture…and then if you’re smart you won’t repeat it!
- Sincerely ask for their forgiveness. Do NOT and I repeat, do NOT ask for their forgiveness or even say you’re sorry if you really don’t have every intention to make sure you don’t repeat that mistake. Changed behavior is the best apology.
- If you don’t have any intention of changing step up and admit it so this person can move on with their life without you.
Those who have sacrificed for you are the ones to really take a look at. If they are pure in those sacrifices…as in they don’t hold them over your head like you will owe them the rest of your life…then make sure you repay the loyalty.
Guys, not many people in your life will be truly loyal to you. Don’t expect it from everyone. Just live a good life and watch who’s being consistently loyal to you and then give it back.
Much love, Teresa